When was the last time anyone told you “Don’t be afraid to break the rules?” You could hear that fairly often from others when it comes to cheating on a diet. While you would probably feel guilty eating that sweet, this tip in the series, How to Feel Good at Your Goals, is a bit more complex.
Is it All or Nothing?
Does it often seem that when a new fitness routine comes out, or a diet ‘lifestyle’ becomes popular, we presume to share a belief that we all need to follow it?
It is as if there is an unspoken rule that influences us to now ‘jump on board’ with it.
Where is the rule book that says you have to be performing at the peak level of an expert doing the fitness plan you just started?! Where is the rule book that says you have to go all-out on everything?
And what if you just can’t conform to all the unspoken rules? You followed the routine. You followed the rules. What if you can’t keep pace?
What if you aren’t seeing results shortly after you begin working towards a new goal? Why did it NOT work?
The ‘All-or-Nothing’ approach is often influenced by the expectations of others, isn’t it?
This approach can, in all probability, result in your becoming overwhelmed, surrender, and fail.
Within our busy lives, very few of us can pull off the ‘All-or-Nothing’ way of fulfilling any meaningful goal – when that goal is not in harmony with our daily frame of mind, our lifestyle, our values, or our major life priorities.
There are no hard and fast rules when working toward new healthy goals. There are guidelines.
Healthy Lifestyle Guide
Wouldn’t it be awesome if there was just a healthy lifestyle guide! Actually there is.
You make your own perfect guide.
How? You determine your future course of action.
It becomes perfect for you when you maintain an awareness to tailor your guide to you. And here is why… Rules when setting healthy lifestyle goals are not decrees.They are not cemented in stone.
What they are is a set of principles designed to guide our actions, as defined by the Merriam-Webster dictionary. They provide us key instruction. They become our guidelines.
Guidelines establish the ground rules, provide a suggested direction or arrangement to follow, direct our way, and keep us in check. Merriam-Webster dictionary also characterized rules as procedures or habits we accept.
What old habits are you still accepting? Today, ask yourself if you are afraid to break the rules? Shake it up some. Can you break old habits? Can you guide your continually refined personal values and establish a healthy lifestyle guide?
In doing this you will support the sweet fruition of your goal! You are also working toward realistic goals!
Making Realistic Goals
Realistic goals not only need to be personal, but they build on consistency. By principle, to have the conviction to see a goal through to the end, and thereby be consistent, we all need confidence in ourselves and the goal.
Do you express yourself as confident in your goals?
How realistic your goals are for you are revealed in your level of confidence in each goal.
Making realistic goals by making them personal and consistently keeping them personal builds our confidence that we will achieve them.
Ask yourself “Can I have confidence in my goal if it is completely established within rules that someone else set?” Practical, individually distinct planning will help you achieve the full potential of your efforts directed toward the achievement of your goals.
Breaking the Rules, Who Me?
Yes you! Challenge your goals! Don’t be afraid to break the rules when beginning new activities! It is a good approach to succeed in goals you are already working on. It actually stimulates your enthusiasm!
But remember, it’s a process, not something done overnight. Stay positive. It may require some changes.
Awesome results that are yours include strengthening yourself physically, establishing nutritional health, increased emotional enrichment, or growth in your spirituality.
So, yes, breaking the rules is a good approach to succeed in your goals!
Still, many of us feel intimidated by how far reaching some goals could be. Successful achievement of life changing goals requires a sense of pace to stay on course.
Sometimes this means interrupting a certain goal by shifting to another activity. Do you pace yourself? And how is this helpful with goals? Check out the next tip to see!